An honest opinon and confusion

I get called a flirt alot by my friends that are Guys. Ok, mainly by James and Charlie, even though they cant say much. I asked Arran if I was a flirt. He said "Yes you are, but subconsciously, you don't want to be, but you cant help reacting to other people when they do flirt with you."

The first truthful thing someone has said about me in ages.

But now I find that John and Sam (his girlfriend) are having problems. I feel kind of guilty for it, even though I haven't done anything wrong. John told me that she rang him last night and asked him what he would do if she told him that she had cheated on him. He said he would be upset and angry. She doesn't think he means it.

What I don't think he understands is that she is testing him, seeing if he does love her.

And now I realise, that I am being "that" girl. The girl that both my two best friends have been worried about during their relationships. The girl that they were worried that their boyfriends might prefer and might leave them for. When they confided in me, about these situations I have told them to stop being paranoid.

It is easy to see it from their point of view, but I never thought I would see it from another perspective.

John and me, are close friends, I don't want to think about him in another way. It is amazing how close we have become in just 8 months and it is like I have known him all my life. Thing is, he talks to me at college, we hang around together, we chat to each other out of college, on facebook, and now on skype. No wonder Sam is worried.

However, friendships come and go, Connor and I were really close, amazingly close, I thought we would be friends forever, but that came crashing down. I met him in town a week ago, it was the most awkward situation ever, I never thought a year ago, that we would EVER be like that. But we are.

Luke however, last year, after all that hullaballoo, it is like we never had those years, when he hurt me over and over again, that we had been talking all along, he is a different person, and yet the same person, the person I want to be friends with.

Anyway, what I am trying to say is, that I don't want to be the person that makes my friends girlfriend paranoid, I don't want to be "that" girl, even though nothing will come of it. She doesn't know that, and no matter how much John will tell her so, she still wont believe him.

I have watched my two best friends got through that pain, and I don't want to inflict it, myself, on a fellow girl.

But what do I do? I am selfish, I am not about to let go of my friendship with John. I may have to distance myself, thing is he relies on me, to talk to me, about things. But I may say I don't want him to talk about him and Sam at me, thing is, I am the only person he can talk to about it.

I don't know what do.